Monday, February 23, 2009

Honey...lets talk

My typical work day usually ends with me going home after a hard worked 8 hours plus. All I want is to eat my dinner, sit down, watch few minutes of CNN, Fox news, and a little of MSNBC, before I flip the channel to my favorite two channels, military history and travel channel. This is pretty much how my week days end up with.
The other day, I sat down for my daily after work ritual, and I noticed my wife a little sad. There is a part of me wanting to ask her "whats wrong honey...r u ok?" and the other part is saying " shut up and pretend that you didn't notive her sadness". The struggle continued for a while, but sadly, the good side of me won. So I did it. "Honey, are you ak?". She started complaining that we don;t talk alot these days. She is right. She usually goes upstairs to help zaid study...gives him a bath..and then reads him something to help him go to bed. I sure hope I am sounding like jelouse of how she is given attention to our son more than me. I really am not. A man sometimes need to sit down and relax in isolation.
So I agreed with her that we are not talking too much these days. I actually feel bad for her because of my constant travel. I mean last week I was in Tenessee, and this week I'm spending half in Chicago, and that already started. So I agreed with her and asked her to talk to me about anything she wishes...heck..why not..she is my wife after all, and the one that withstand my thoglet dam.
At any rate, she started talking about her firiends...how this one is not happy with her husband...and how that one is misstreating her husband...and how another one is wanting to have kids while the husband doesn't want. That took more than an hour. She then started talking about food and different ways to cook different meals. She then reverted to talking about her sisters in Jordan. I kept quiet all this time.
At the end of the night..I told her "honey...now you know why we don;t talk? it's because I am interested in your friends stories..and your sister well being...and cooking...it's just doesn't interest me". I was being honest. I mean I don;t care about any of her friends...well..except the one that makes good layali lebnan. And I'm sure she wouldn't be interested in my work stories and what i do at work.
What the heck can we talk about? I like politics, she likes egyptian movies. I like science, and she likes faked arab history. I like lamb, and she likes veggies.
So...next time your wife asks you to spend some time to talk to her...run to the nearest coffee shop.
I still love her and wish that she is not bored. Now watch how the women nazi group jump on my back and start attaking my old mentality...se sayyed..but I am not se sayyed.

4 comments:

PALFORCE said...

LOL, phew!
Glad there is life out there and there are others who are like me, I thought I'm the only "inconsiderate" husband out there.

Well, here is a joke for you that has nothing to do with your post:

A man escapes from prison where he's been locked up for 15 years. He breaks into a house to look for money and guns. Inside, he finds a young couple in bed. He orders the guy out of bed and ties him to a chair. While tying the wife to the bed, the convict gets on top of her, kisses her neck, then gets up and goes into the bathroom.

While he's in there, the husband whispers over to his wife, "Listen, this guy is an escaped convict. Look at his clothes! He's probably spent a lot of time in jail and hasn't seen a woman in years. I saw how he kissed your neck. If he wants sex, don't resist, don't complain... do whatever he tells you. Satisfy him no matter how much he nauseates you. This guy is obviously very dangerous. If he gets angrey, he'll kill us both. Be strong honey, I love you!"

His wiferesponds: "He wasn't kissing my neck. He told me that he is gay, thinks you are cute, and asked if we had any vasline. I told him it was in the bathroom. Be strong. I love you, too."

Hang in there!

Khaled

kinzi said...

Bo3, I'm not going to rail on ya.:)

Tell you wife from me that it is true you two need to talk. But not about this stuff. Wives need to understand that men have very few words to use when they come home from work. Women, use them sparingly, cherish what little they can give.

What you guys need to do is actually communicate, and believe me, Bo3, that will cost you more than listening to stories. But it will be worth it. Talk is like fore-play for us. We feel connected. We need to connect emotionally to be fully engaged elsewhere.

She is a nurturer, and she doesn't get any chance to nurture your soul if you aren't talking. if you let her, you will be glad. You will be built up, she will have fulfilled one of her highest roles.

Wife needs some girlfriends to talk about the other stuff. In fact, it is probably a waste of her heart and brain to focus on other's problems. Get her to start reading blogs :)

Khaled, that was awful! But, I did laugh!

Dino$ said...

the " honey lets talk" usually is " 7ases be museeba gayali"

so u should be thankful that this one was simply girl talk.. u know... my husband took a new job and travels a lot.. its really hard for a wife to be alone and get used to her husband being away so when he finally comes she tries to keep him updated on all the things he has missed usually its gossip.. its her way of bonding with you..

can i hug her? hehe

Allah ykhaleeko la ba3d

Bo3Bo3 said...

palforce
looooool...

Kinzi and Dino
after writing this post...few friends of mine hammered me on it and that I was being unfair. I have decided to get involved with my wife's type topics...and should (and will) spend some time listening and talking to her. I truelly feel bad for her staying alone home while I'm away. I recon that a woman has a emotional needs more than the materialistic ones.