Thursday, July 26, 2007

My self made prison

Before I write what I wanna write, I know that ya'aal will ask and tell me "whats preventing you from doing it?" This is not about such question..I feel that I can't answer, but rather about venting. Venting that many of you may be dying to let out of your chest. Regardess....I'll speak my mind.
Sometimes, when I'm alone, and with no one around me, someone takes over my mind. It is as a nightmare that haunts me always, sleep or awake, it won;t matter.
I start day dreaming, or as some will call it, hallucinating, about Jordan. This is probably a good time to stop reading if your not in love with such beatiful land..i won;t blame you at all.
I sometimes vision myself sitting on my favorit childhood hill, of course in 6abarboor, playing with a stick writing some scribbles on a beautiful sandy hill. As I lift my head up, and watch those shiphards with their sheep roaming the beautiful desert, I live a wonderful love story of a young boy with this land. A yong boy who was forced to leave at an early age, his beloved land.
Visions like walking in the streets of amman, hearing the horns of the cars, and the yellng of the crowd. Smelling the aroma of food and gasoline that fills such streets. Walking from a place to another, a restaurant to a coffee shop, and passing by the small stores. Watching the faces of the people who are busy trying to figure out what to buy for their loved ones waiting eagerly at home.
Daydreaming has never been my thing...but it's haunting me now. I start to ask myself, why me? Why did I leave? How can I go back. Please don't ask me to answer such difficult questions...for I can't answer. Just stuck in a world I seemed to choose for myself, yet I blame others for my misery. On ocasions, satan seems to be winning some grounds in his battle against me, and I start asking and blaming God. Lasting for moments of course, before I snap out of it and go back into my blues.
I'm becoming more sensative..pathetically sensative you may say. I could be sitting down sipping my tea after a long day's work, and suddenly, my wife starts singing with a low voice songs from the folklor of jordan. I then feel tears from my eyes, yet, not flowing outside, but inside towards my heart torturing every cell in it. I wish she stops..but I seem to enjoy such torture. To add more on such miserty, I sometimes yell at her "stop". Only to se her going into her own misery speaking of how her aunt used to sing such sings to her as she helped her to sleep at night.
I came to realize that Jordan is a curse...a beautiful curse. It's probably painful to live jordan now, but I damnguarantee that it is more painful living away from her. Her hills, streets, alleys, aroma, harship, and the sweet nights we spent on the roofs laying on our backs counting the starts on a beautiful july night in 6abarboor. I guess some of us were distened to be tortured by her presence, as well her absence, from our lives.
What saddens me that many jordanian americans tried to go back and settle in jordan. Only to come back dragging the signs of failures for not coping. Execuses that may make sense to you, but never did to me.
True I found the career and respect that i worked so hard to earn..but I just can't win the tranquility of being "home". I kid you not, but I pray that I am forced to leave home..yeah..forced as in kicked out of the states. I just can't seem to make the "right" decision. Torn apart between protecting my career and family, and between a life that my soul is so eager to live...home. Between selfesness and between responsibility toward my loved ones.
So..why don't you simply pack your bags and leave?.....I told you not to why are you doing this to me? You'll laugh at what instigated such post..but so what? laugh anyway. I was listening to some sings...and suddenly..omar elabdallat song "ma7la eldaar weldeereh...." played on my computer as I was sitting down in my hotel room thinking about tomorrow. Suddenly..tomorrow seemed to be so far away as I was stcuk in my self made prison of torture. I guess I deserve it. Oh is a female dog after all, ain't it.


ma7joob said...

i always tell ppl who keep whining about jordan that when they leave they'll know how AMAZING jordan is , i really love this country , but the thing is , i don't know when was the last time you can here , but jordan is losing the JORDANIAN SPIRIT , sadly we're trying to imitate americans with thier life style , even the small shops you talked about in your post , most of them are gone and you'll find HUGE malls instead , REAL jordan is only in downtown amman and jabal and amman and a couple of other places , but west amman is turning into an american city , so the thing is , i know that you miss jordan but trust me , it's not worth coming here and leaving your family and job , you'll find the jordan you day dream of is no longer present

Globalorama said...

the best thing to do is to visit for a pre-specified period of time. I went to Jordan once in the ten years I've been in the states. five years ago. I miss it a lot. but not enough. even five years ago, Jordan apperaded to have gone through many social, cultural, and demographical changes. i only imagine the state of Jordan these days.

Summer said...

"life is a female dog after all, ain't it." :)
Welcome back to your blog!
nice usual.

Sam said...

ah u sound so much like my so sick of this symphony...really im sick of it...not of yours of course, since this is the first time i hear it..but from hubby's...i wish i could move back to amman, blah blah blah...uuuf!

Anonymous said...

You talk much like a tourist

Bo3Bo3 said...


the never ending war between realty and hallusination..ain't it?

I go there almost once every 5 years..and every time, I sink deeper into this prison

:) glad to find the time to write some.

Believe me, I feel what ur husband feels.

do I? I wanna be a citizin, not a tourist.

Celal Birader said...

Hello Bo3Bo3 ...

There's no such thing as a 'heaven on earth' anywhere whether in the U.S. in Jordan or Turkey (about which i sometimes feel like you but not to the extreme of your emotions).

Heaven is in heaven where Jesus is.

HE tames our passions.

HERE is my prayer. May it be yours also. God bless.

Batoul said...

I feel you.. I deal with the same dilemma. You write your thoughts so well into a blog :) nice.

Sel3 said...

I've read your post three times o mesh 3aref sho agolak...

Summer said...

wishing you and your family a very blessed Ramadan. May God accept your fasting and grants you forgiveness.

al3arabi said...

Bo3bo3! Ramadan kareem! I used to be on mahjoob as maan1986. You're a funny guy I used to love reading your posts man. Remember one time I prank called you at your hotel with the arnold schwartenegger sounds? haha lemme hear from you man.

Islamic ChoCoHoLic said...

il ghorbeh sa3beh yamma!


Kol saneh wa inta salim

ma howe law il ordon feeha shughul wa floos zay il naas kan il kol riji3 il mushkileh ino hnaak the famous jumleh is : "m3eesh floos a7lig" :P

3anyway... thank u for adding me to your blogroll.. 7ase 7ali itraqayt! :P